Stop wasting time.
Be effective.
ONE QUESTION: do you want to be right or happy in life?
(1) "want to be right" actions:
continue the dilly-dally, seeking people who "agree" with you, "yes, you are the victim, she is wrong".
(2) "want to be happy" actions:
QUESTION: "want to be happy with wife" or "want to be happy without wife" (divorced/become single or find another partner)?
(2a) "want to be happy with wife"actions:
FOCUS on healing the relationship with ALL your wisdom, EQ, IQ, T-I-M-E, resources
(2b1) "want to be happy without wife" (divorced/become single) actions:
???
(2b2) "want to be happy without wife" (find another partner) actions:
QUESTION: what is the chance of success???